My girlfriend is cheating on me with a rich narcissist — he’ll never treat her like I do

Discovering out a associate has been untrue is heartbreaking — however we don’t all react by packing their luggage and altering the locks.

This week, we hear from a reader who’s learnt his girlfriend is dishonest with a a lot richer, a lot older man.

Regardless of realizing he’s been betrayed, he’s terrified to lose her, and is determined to get his relationship again on monitor.

Learn the recommendation under, however earlier than you go, don’t overlook to take a look at final week’s column, from a lady who’s fallen out of affection along with her husband, and has had her head turned by a fellow dad or mum she met on the faculty run.

The issue…

My beautiful girlfriend is dishonest with one other man and though I do know I ought to dump her, the considered dropping her simply makes me need her much more.

We’ve been residing collectively for practically two years, however I’ve identified one thing has been mistaken for the previous few months. She has felt fairly distant and when now we have intercourse, it’s at all times very mechanical on her half – there’s no affection in any respect. She usually turns her again on me in mattress and generally she stays out all evening, claiming to stick with a buddy.

I obtained a mate to comply with her one evening, and positive sufficient she met up with a a lot older man who owns an upmarket hotel-restaurant close to us. He undoubtedly has a number of quid – though most likely not as a lot as he would have, had he not two ex-wives and some youngsters to pay for.

This bloke is not any looker and is an effective twenty years older than her, however he does have an Aston Martin and a luxurious yacht. I do know somebody who’s buddies with him on social media and says he’s at all times posting selfies from unique places, posing on deck.

I really feel bitter and indignant, as I do know he’s only a narcissist with pretend enamel and tan, who doesn’t deserve her. He won’t ever deal with her in addition to I do.

I can really feel her slipping away and I don’t know what to do about it.

Laura says…

I don’t imply to be unsympathetic, however the sooner this lady ‘slips away’, the higher. Your relationship is falling aside and for those who’re proper, it’s as a result of she’s met somebody who can meet her materials wants in a means you could’t.

It doesn’t sound as if you’ve confronted her about her behaviour and albeit, the extra you enable her to get away with, the extra she’ll deal with you want a idiot. She’s being shallow and egocentric as a result of she may be, however it is advisable be robust and inform her you’re not placing up with it any extra.

I do know you assume you’re in love along with her, so perhaps it will put your thoughts at relaxation to inform her what you’ve found, and make one final try to salvage the connection. A minimum of you’ll know you’ve tried. If she gained’t quit this different man, provide to assist her pack and name a taxi for her.

A 20-year age hole works for some {couples}, but it surely’s difficult, and though issues may appear enjoyable whereas her lover remains to be fairly youthful and energetic, she could not get pleasure from it a lot when he begins to really feel his age.

It won’t final between the 2 of them, however even when she begs you to take her again, please simply say a agency no. You deserve somebody who loves you for who you’re, not whether or not or not you will have a flowery boat.

It’s possible you’ll not imagine it now, but when she does go away, I feel you’ll finally look again on this complete episode as a fortunate escape.

Laura is a counsellor and columnist.

Obtained a intercourse and relationship dilemma? To get skilled recommendation, ship your drawback to Laura.Collins@metro.co.uk.

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